Marriage and Couples Counselling
First Things First Let's Answer Afew Questions
If you answered a bold yes to these questions, then this will be the best decision you have made yet.
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The program, Couple’s Therapy winning as a team is an amazing venture to get into with your significant other. It is curated to help both of you understand each other better, it is built with the idea that our personalities, temperaments, values, and upbringing play a huge role in being a healthy team.
Once you make a commitment to the program, you will receive a workbook to use over the next few weeks of your sessions.
Together you will be issued with personality tests, love language tests, and ACEs Scorecard to help you start having more insight into the inner workings of your and your partner’s mind.
The goal of these sessions is to bring you two closer together in order to handle the challenges that life will inevitably throw at you as a team.
Couple’s Counselling is a very effective tool to apply in your relationship. If you think about it, we invest over 16 years of formal education to be experienced in our careers, and at least four of those years are spent equipping you to thrive in your employment or entrepreneurship journey.
Couple’s Counselling is essentially the same concept. A formalized and mildly informal approach to getting both of you ready to make a bigger commitment or two equip those of you who have already made the long-term commitment.
Can you pledge me though?
Please open yourself up to the possibility of a significant shift.
Also, maintain each other’s confidentiality.
You are a team and unless you both win, you both lose.
Being committed to one person is an interesting journey.
The choice to be together at the beginning is brave, but I believe what is an even braver choice is choosing to stick through thick and thin when you already know what you have gotten yourself into.
The investment fee is KES 3000 per couple per session.
A combination of behavior therapy, and Gottman therapy from a licensed counselor.
A minimum of 5 sessions to work through
- Attachment styles
- Translating love languages
- Communication skills
- Personalized conflict resolution
- Healing and Rebuilding trust
- Learning to speak to each other’s inner child.
RESOURCES ( As a bonus)
* Workbooks
* Take-home exercises
* Personality and Attachment style tests
PRACTICAL . INTERACTIVE . VIRTUAL
Healthy long-term relationships don’t get a lot of airtime because it’s a scary idea that two flawed individuals could somehow curate a beautiful and peaceful existence.
In Couple’s counseling, there are three major questions asked
- Do you believe your partner is a good and safe individual?
- Are you both fully committed to the ride?
- Are you both intentional about having fun on the way through it?
Number three wasn’t by accident but by design, marriage, and long-term commitments are always brought up with a plot twist. But to be truly brave is to know that you could have an idealized picture and there is nothing wrong with idealism, but do you have faith that in the middle of it, you will realize a bigger pattern?
We all have unconscious expectations of what we expect our partner’s role to be. Sometimes we are not even aware of them and often, neither are they. As a result, we find ourselves in a place of resentment because of unmet expectations, not knowing what we want and need from each other, or even how those needs can be met.
All parts of my therapy practice are such fun. But I do have a special heart for couples. Because I see two people with such a remarkable passion for each other but haven’t developed the tools to actualize said passion.
When it comes to communication often we are saying a lot that is not really being heard, sometimes we are saying nothing and still expecting to be heard, while other times we are saying things that do not match with what we want. Because most of us don’t know how to understand our own needs first, people enter into partnerships hoping that our partner will via some cosmic miracle figure out our needs and meet them. It’s not intentional or malicious it’s just that we have come from a society that often teaches us to suppress our needs so we may not even be familiar with them or know how to communicate them.
A great communication package requires
- Two individuals who are in agreement to be their best selves for each other.
- An intentional mindset for both parties to work on what needs work.
- Individuals who know what their wants and needs are.
- Individuals who know how to meet said wants and needs and measure satisfaction.
- Individuals that can communicate said wants and needs.
- Two parties that are willing and able to hear said needs and meet them within reason.
A great relationship takes hard work but it is highly rewarding to even other areas of your life. An unsafe and unhealthy relationship takes very little effort but it causes misery and detriment that spills over to other parts of your life.
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It’s transformative, it’s an amazing experience to strengthen your partnership.
A powerful tool I use with couples during couples counseling is the vulnerable experience of allowing them to share each other’s origin stories.
Most couples meet as fully-fledged adults and they continue with life not truly knowing what happened before their meet-cute.
Once you see your partner for their inner child experiences, you begin to see them through a very empathetic lens.
After that, you begin to learn how to speak and communicate safely to that hurt child so they can trust you enough to form an ever-lasting bond.
Never was there a more powerful place in y relationship with my husband than when he spoke healing to the little girl who had made plenty of inner vows to protect herself from hurt, and I believe the same goes for him. Even without Counseling encouraging the conversations of origins to be had in your homes, storytelling is a wonderful weapon.
Would you like to start growing as a couple?
Virtual Counseling is available from the comfort of your home
Winning As A Team
Begin Your Healthy Journey Together Today
